Future awaits and potentially ruining my life??

Hey guys,

So recently I was asked what I wanted to be. Being 14 years old I replied "I had no clue.", but gave a few options. My father then told me that I was nearing my days at university so I had to know what I wanted to take.

And then I ruined my life. 

5SOS have now become a huge part of my life, like YouTubers had in December 2014. I have been in the 5SOSFam for a few months but there are a lot of things I knew before I joined, which is probably why I like them so much. So with that aside, I have sadly put 5SOS in front of everything I love; my future, my career choices, my friends and family only because they literally saved my life when I was alone.

Now, if you are in the fam - or any fandom to be honest *sigh* -  you would be aware of drama. The boys I remember from 2014, who were constantly popping up on my feed, were dorky and cute but after that all this drama started, which broke the fandom slowly. Now the most recent one is the Rolling Stones article, which was indeed powerful enough to ruin their careers. The article portrayed them as mean, desperate, lust wanting boys (as well as depressed which a very few fans noticed), basically like those teenage boys no one wants to be around. Many old and new fans and people in general lost respect for them, moved away from them and decided this wasn't something they didn't want to be apart of. Me? I was horrified. I had this vision of those 2014, happy chaps that were just innocent lambs, and I admit it slapped me in the face, as I had just started to be IN the fam(I already liked their music). Many fans however, believed the article was fake. I however, have 70% belief that the article isn't as it seems. 
Like me, many fans have forget these boys have grown up. They will be doing a lot more "things" we'd never even CONSIDER. It daunts on me now that, many people have become so obsessed with the band, they don't see a fault in something they do. I for one, don't always praise them if they lack their normal, clean performance. Yet many fans give excuses, which is worrying as you may be destroying your life and throwing away your future. I have registered that I am throwing away everything for a fantastic group of boys who unfortunately:

1. don't know me
2. have no idea I exist
3. have already made their living

So I have occupied myself in other things to prevent this getting worse

• drawing - you can make fan art which no only allows you to still connect with your favourite musician, but you also take a step back from them and social media
• hobbies - I have started to play the guitar, because I love many 5SOS songs that are played on the guitar. this increases my attention span and makes me more intelligent, while still occasionally enjoying my faves
• give your phone up - for me, I have exams coming, so my mum has taken away my phone so i can focus.
• rewards - if you leave that artist and the results are amazing, treat yourself! Buy yourself tickets to their concert, a poster whatever you think you deserve. But why? When you reward yourself like this, you get more determined to do better to earn something better, meaning you will work harder.

Back to the future (smooth), it is important you have a rough idea of what you are looking at. Like if you like reading, solving and analysing, being a banker or lawyer is suitable for you (don't take my word though). Building and designing - engineering is a good idea. However, to make sure you become 100% about what path you take, you must:

• check in universities what subjects you like lead to what courses
• choose a university and see if any subjects you like are popular or recommended
• constantly look at jobs you are interested in and see what you need, just incase a subject you dislike is essential.
• make sure it is something you will love - money is lovely, but doing a job you won't like for money won't make you happy
• put yourself out there! - if you like singing, dancing or art, display it on social media and if you don't like that you have time to change (if you do it while you are young) or if you want to be a athlete, train anyway you can (in or outside of school) and push yourself.

As great as I am at giving advice *sarcasm* I do procrastinate and avoid it (my last blog speaks about procrastinating if you want my super cool advice) which is another reason why I probably shouldn't have a blog. But it is nice to see loads of people reading this, I really do appreciate it. 

Also I decided to conquer my fears of people and started posting videos of my singing (using this name) and it does work. I am more comfortable with speaking to people, probably because someone gave me a dislike :'(. But with that aside, please do comment about what I should speak about next, as it will probably help me when I forget to write my blog.

Thanks guys, hope you excel in life! <3

NOTE: Just read my first blog post, it shows how dorky and shy I was and I have come so far through 5 other blog posts, hope you too conquer your confidence.

JustAnxther out xx